![]() ![]() If the fixation continues, both partners polarize, and the relationship may end. ![]() If there is awareness of the disconnect, it may be mended. How far the downward cycle goes depends a lot on each person’s self-awareness and tolerance for discomfort. This may be confusing to the Investigator (5) who feels their desire for time alone is healthy and acceptable. Or conversely, the Helper (2) may start to withhold care and nurturing as a passive aggressive way of expressing dissatisfaction over the lack of attention they feel from their Investigator (5). The Helper (2) may not understand how their interest is interpreted as intrusion the same way the Investigator (5) may not realize how their isolation is interpreted as rejection. The more the Helper (2) leans in, the more the Investigator (5) shrinks back. This triggers the downward spiral, with the Helper (2) trying harder to connect with their Investigator (5) who now feels their stability threatened. The Helper (2) may get frustrated and feel rejected by the Investigator (5)’s desire for solitude and lack of emotional expression. These differences are fundamental and can create conflicts when either partner is fixated. Helper (2)s are more openly affectionate and verbally expressive. ![]() Investigator (5)s express love indirectly, though loyalty, consistency, good listening and problem solving. Helper (2)s feel stable and secure with constant, consistent personal connection. Investigator (5)s feel stable and secure when they are isolated and left to their individual pursuits. Together, this is a highly balancing couple who share a deep bond of affection, commitment and loyalty.Ī key difference between Investigator (5) and Helper (2) is their sensitivity to personal boundaries (including time alone) and the different way they express love and affection. Investigator (5)s and Helper (2) set their personal priorities differently, and successful couples report giving each other a lot of personal freedom to pursue things that are important to them. Successful negotiation of time spent together and independently is key in this relationship. They help calm emotional storms and are a stable rock for the Helper (2) who can get drawn into interpersonal dramas. ![]() Less clouded by emotion, the Investigator (5) brings clear analysis, rational thought and logic to the decision-making of the Helper (2). In return, the Investigator (5) offers a solid foundation to their Helper (2). Their home is cleaner, they dress better, they eat better, they understand other people more and so forth. Investigator (5)s report their life becomes upgraded with the influence of their Helper (2). The Helper (2) offers the Investigator (5) caring, nurturing, concern, attentiveness and an introduction to the soft skills in life: communication, emotional fluency and social graces. Blended, this couple creates a home that values both logic, facts, feelings and relationships. They are at home in the world of logic, facts, information and reason. They value self sufficiency, limited demands and personal freedom. In contrast, Investigator (5) prefer to minimize their connection to others as they seek to preserve what they experience as very limited energy. They are at home in the world of feelings, emotions and social connections. They value personal relationships highly and seek deep connection with others. Helper (2)s are socially adept with high emotional intelligence, charm, warmth and engaging, friendly behavior. Together, this couple balances each other. Their differences form not only the initial attraction but the longer-term bond between the two. The Helper (2) with the Investigator (5) is a classic example of opposites attracting, the social butterfly with the reserved wallflower. Here we explore the compatibility of an Enneagram Type 2 with a Type 5 and what the relationship looks like when it is in balance and when it starts to spiral downward. Enneagram Type 5 Observers/Thinkers/Investigators are typically introverted, curious, analytical and insightful. Enneagram Type 2 Helpers/Givers/Lovers are typically warm, concerned, nurturing and sensitive to the needs, preferences and desires of the people around them. ![]()
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